If things are not working the way you want, it is time to step back and take a good look at what IS working for you and what isn't.  It is also time to look at how you come across to others and how THAT may effect your business. There are several things you can do, or NOT do, to create a shift for your business:

1. Do some research and educate yourself on a variety of topics:

*How to Run a Successful Home Based Business
*How to Market Your Product
*How to Organize your Business & Time
*Search Engine Optimization (for those with websites)
*How to Write Ads that Work
*The Power of Networking
*Secrets in Advertising
*How to Budget Your Business
*Time Management

2. Take time to PUT INTO MOTION what you have learned.  Don't put all that reading and research to waste by not applying it.

3. Don't be too proud to look to others for help.  Look at the people that you see are successful.  Instead of harboring possible feelings of envy or jealousy, or even the thoughts of "well I could never do that", study what they have done.  Ask them if they could share some ideas or mentor you.  Don't expect that this advice or mentoring "should" be free.  Be willing to pay or barter for help.  You can't expect that someone should give up their own time, away from their own business and family, to guide and teach you.

4. Make better use of your time.  Take a reality check and chart your time for a few days, so you can see exactly what you are doing when you "should" be working your business.  Are you spending too much time on message boards or email lists?  Are you spending too much time chatting on Instant Message?  Are you spending too much time browsing and getting "lost" on the internet?  Are you spending too much time on customers who you may need to drop?  Are you spending too much time on projects and day to day routines that could be more automated?

5. Realize that your business DOES need to change from time to time.  You cannot expect growth from doing the same thing from year to year. Then be brave enough to make the changes that need to be made.

6. Reinvest the money earned from your sales to expand, promote and grow your business.  Spend your money wisely on things that will help your business or your business "self" to grow and advance.

7. Don't share too much of your personal "drama" with business associates, especially in very public arenas such as message boards or email lists.  You can lose alot of credibility if it looks like you cannot manage your own life (financially, emotionally etc).  People will and DO look at how you represent yourself personally and how you run your life and they will mirror that sort of management and behavior onto your business.

8. Don't beg.  It it not professional or ethical. Don't tell people that you are desperate to make a sale or meet a quota, or worse yet, try to get people to pity you for a personal situation you may be facing that requires you to need more money. You NEED to separate your personal life from your business.  People will be turned off and view what you are doing as capitalizing on a bad situation in your personal life.  If you need more money to come in, offer a sale or discount.  Do it in a very upbeat, positive and fun way.  Don't guilt people into doing business with you.

9. Each person brings a unique view and personality to their business.  Utilize and capitalize on that uniqueness.  Find your OWN way, through hard work, creative ideas and perseverance.

Remember the expression "Rome wasn't built in a day"?  Well, neither can your business be built in a day.  A successful and long living business will take time to grow as it needs to. This could be months, it could be years. The sooner you realize that there will be good AND bad times ahead, the sooner you can get away from the "poor poor me" attitude when things aren't as you had hoped they would be.